Relationship Tools and Skills, One Article at a Time

Our collection of short, informative articles offer essential tools and skills to help you reshape your relationships around your needs. Each article offers opportunities to explore new ways for you to:

  • Understand your true relationship needs

  • Raise your awareness in attachment and mindfulness

  • Embrace a growth mindset in your relationship

  • Fix what feels broken in your relationship or relationship patterns

  • Keep what feels right in your relationship or relationship patterns

Molly Binenfeld Molly Binenfeld

Shedding labels: Growing from the anxious one to defining your own role

Despite all the effort you’ve put into therapy, the growth that you’ve experienced in your life, no one seems to notice except you. While people in your system may be slow to catch on, remember that other peoples’ ability to adapt to your changed behavior will likely be slow, and that your progress is still valid!

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Yasi Razban Yasi Razban

Embracing Your Lived Experience

By learning to embrace our lived experience, we release the pressure that we “should” be a certain way and, instead, we just be. We learn to accept that “negative” emotions can exist without tearing us apart… without weighing us down.

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Fidel Quintanilla Fidel Quintanilla

Masculinity, an asset or a liability

Being a man does not mean you must battle anxiety, depression, and the stress of your job or family alone. Being able to face your issues is one of the most challenging things you can do (and also the most rewarding). This is why it is crucial to have someone you trust so you can talk about your struggles and your vulnerability won’t be judged like it was the first time you decided to open up and it didn’t go your way.

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Molly Binenfeld Molly Binenfeld

Facts not feelings

I’d like to offer you a reminder that your feelings are not facts. While they may feel real - feeling anxious may often lead to feeling a rapid heartbeat or getting that heavy feeling in your chest - this does not mean that your feelings are ultimate truths. Consider instead that your feelings are guides - they offer important clues and insight into what you need to attend to in your body and mind.

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Stephanie Gonzalez Stephanie Gonzalez

Boundaries are love

The foundation of boundary setting is created through intention and care for yourself. There are many needs that you may be sacrificing in order to please those around you. As a result, you spend more time living for others than building a life that is truly aligned with your happiness and peace.

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Jasmeet Bhullar Jasmeet Bhullar

Authenticity: The key to a healthy relationship

When you regularly accept your partner giving you less than what you deserve in an argument (or in a relationship), you are training your partner to say/do more things that do not meet your needs.

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Yasi Razban Yasi Razban

It’s the Most Wonderful - and Overwhelming - Time of the Year

There is no right or wrong way to spend the holidays. Breaking the cycle of discomfort over the holidays means planning ahead, letting go of all the pressure, reflecting on what’s helped in the past, giving yourself more grace, and reaching out to people you trust for help if you need it.

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Fidel Quintanilla Fidel Quintanilla

Why am I the only one with this problem?

The hardest part of anxiety and depression can be believing that you are the only person with these problems, or thinking you have a “me problem.” In fact, most of the issues people have are “we problems.”

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Molly Binenfeld Molly Binenfeld

Party of 1: The truth about change in therapy

What happens when I change but the people around me stay the same? Don’t they have to change, too? The short answer is: to see benefits and experience growth in therapy, the only thing that needs to change is you.

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