Boundaries are love
The topic of setting boundaries has been trending on social media for some time now. However, setting a boundary is far from trendy, shallow and easy. Boundaries are a long-term commitment in order to preserve your peace and ensure you are living a life with ease and assurance.
To begin understanding how boundaries work, let’s talk about the difference between what they are and what they are not:
Boundaries are not a wall that you put up to keep people away, rather it’s a way to teach people how to respect your values, positive intentions and the goals you have for your life.
Boundaries are not a one time thing, in fact, they require consistency and the courage to enforce them everyday.
Boundaries are not malicious or a way to get back at someone, they instead teach others how we want to be treated.
Boundaries are not simple, they can bring tremendous guilt and grief.
Boundaries are not someone else’s responsibility to uphold, instead, you have to do more of the work to maintain them because we cannot control the way others react to them.
Finally, how do you know when it’s time to have a conversation around boundaries with your therapist? One of the biggest indicators is that more days than not you feel irritability, resentment, anger, frustration, apathy and complacency towards others in your relationships.
The foundation of boundary setting is created through intention and care for yourself. There are many needs that you may be sacrificing in order to please those around you. As a result, you spend more time living for others than building a life that is truly aligned with your happiness and peace.
Takeaways:
Boundaries are not the same as creating a wall.
Boundaries can make us feel like a villain.
Boundaries have more to do with us than others.
Boundaries protect your peace.
Boundaries bring you closer to yourself
Boundaries are love.
Learn more by visiting these popular resources:
https://psychcentral.com/lib/10-way-to-build-and-preserve-better-boundaries
